The Fight

A few weeks ago I was doing my weekly spring cleaning. I had a big box full of stuff I no longer wanted. I began to fill it with books I never read and probably would never. I came across a book my mom had bought me at the thrift store, “Every Young Girls Battle.”  When she gave it to me I made fun of it and said, “Every young girls battle is trying to find a good-looking rich man.”

Before I threw the book in the box I opened it to a page to see what kind of read it would be. To my surprise it was very interesting.

I have trouble finishing books. I tend to get bored mid way. But this book had me intrigued.  I finished it in just a couple of weeks.

The book is about how to have a healthy relationship with the opposite sex.

I never really witnessed a healthy dating relationship, in fact, I was positive it was impossible. When I say healthy, I mean a relationship where two people encourage, build, strengthen, support, push towards God, and save them selves for marriage. I’ve heard of people who have done this but I’m pretty sure they crossed a few lines while they were dating. haha.

In fact, I have a friend whose advice is, “If you wanna get married, get pregnant.” I laughed at his horrible advice but it seems that is how our culture operates.

I can recall having many conversations with friends about the battle of purity. Today’s culture doesn’t even know what that word means. I’m sure they only use it when talking about Fiji water.

“If you don’t guard your mind, you’ll find that when it comes to your relationships with the opposite sex, your resistances can be low before any encounter takes place. But you do have some choice in this matter .. you can train your mind to mind.” – Every Young Girls Battle

I didn’t realize that there are many levels of purity; mentally, emotionally, and of course physically. If the heart and mind aren’t guarded, then baggage will soon build up, causing a train of unhealthy relationships. It encourages to stay pure for the sake of your future marriage. The habits that take place in your dating life don’t go away once you are committed and married.

It was a book that every guy would hate for the girl he likes to read.. unless he desires a healthy woman to marry with no crazy baggage from all her past relationships.

It’s nice to know having a healthy relationship is possible. The secret is to respect and honor one another..and to not kiss longer than three seconds. haha